Ever been in a conversation with someone and they doom and gloom all the time. They talk about others negatively behind their back and nothing happens to them because of them…I mean it’s always someone else’s fault right!
You probably wonder how one person can survive with all that inside them! Yet, these negative people exist all around us and are impossible to avoid.
Here is my approach…Unless someone is “Talking Forward”, I mean speaking with solutions in mind, Walk away. You don’t have to be rude about it. Simply thank them for their time and leave the conversation. Don’t let them poison you with their thoughts and opinions and certainly don’t let them limit you.
You see…if something is not working out…please understand, it’s because of you! Not someone else. Someone else may be involved and may have dropped a ball as part of the process but knowing this after the fact YOU can fix this. What you do with the tools you have is 100% in your control. Not succeeding the first time is not because the tools don’t work, it may be just that you don’t know how to use the tools efficiently to get the desired outcome. Pick them up and try again…or modify your approach…Don’t blame others…You have the power to fix it yourself but being solution focused… ”Talking Forward”.
Here are 3 things to do to help…
1. Build a Positive Network…with positive people. A network who look to grow and explore ways to do so.
2. Mastermind: Surround yourself with a solution driven Mindset. People who are always moving forward regardless with what challenges they encounter. People who understand that their setbacks are lessons and experiences to learn from so that it doesn’t impede on their growth.
3. Futures. These are the people I call for whom I want to be. One of the fastest ways to be successful is to be around others who have achieved what you want. Learn from them and positively implement their thinking. I call this “Thinking INSIDE the Box”. You don’t need to think outside the box…(I have a blog on this already. Find it here).
You have heard the statement that you become a mix of the 5 people you spend the most time with. Well, don’t let any of these people be ones who “Talk Backwards”.